Put Your Damn Phone Down for a Second!
Do you notice that when you’re out with a group, everyone is still either checking or on their phones? Whether it’s texting, updating Facebook or Twitter, talking to someone else, or using an app they’ve downloaded if they have a “smart phone,” I find that there are a lot of people who can’t seem to function in everyday life without doing something with their phone.
While it would be ideal if everyone could cease being slaves to their phones, and rejoin the world on a “real” social level again – remember when we actually got together, talked, and had each other’s undivided attention? We knew about each other by talking to each other, not by checking up on each other’s Facebook status? I would at least like to offer an etiquette to cell phone use, because I find a lot of the times, people are just down-right rude, a lot of the time without even realizing they are being so.
In the Movie Theater:
Take care of all the calls and texts you need to send, if any, before you walk into the actual theater. Once you are seated, your phone should be off, or on silent. Chances are you aren’t going to the movies alone (I find a lot of people are uncomfortable with this, I don’t mind going alone, myself), so why be rude to the person or people you are with? Talk with them before the credits start. And please, if you are not going to turn your phone off, turn the ringer to silent. I hate when people talk during a movie, but hearing a phone go off is just as bad. Ruins the whole movie experience for me, which makes even wanting to go, and spending anywhere from $7.50 to $10.50 a person, undesirable.
Any Group Outing:
If you are out with people, be it just one other person, a group of friends; shopping, out to eat, bowling, etc., it’s just common decency to keep the phone in your purse or pocket, and enjoy the time out with friends. If there’s an emergency call you need to take, or a call your expecting (as a military spouse, I can sympathize with those awaiting a call from a deployed spouse), then fine. But if you’re too busy calling or texting someone who is not out with you, when you could be talking to them after the group splits, please, refrain from getting the phone out. There’s this thing called “Voicemail” and “Caller ID”, so you’re not going to “miss” a call – you’ll know who called, and can call them back. And your phone saves text messages. If not, you have a crappy phone, and should consider a replacement.
Seriously, I can’t even believe I even have to mention it. But the gym. The gym is for working out, not for calls or texting. The only time I brought my phone into the gym with me was when my husband was away for a three-month long military training, and I never knew when I’d get to receive a call from him. Otherwise, the gym isn’t for socializing with friends who aren’t there with you. My phone doesn’t even make it into the gym with me. At the gym recently, another young woman on a machine near me was texting her entire workout. Are you kidding me? It’s just pathetic when I see this. Can’t people do anything without their phones anymore?
Should be self-explanatory, there are laws against it. When you’re driving, a call is one thing. But for the love of god, do not text. If you do, you accept responsibility for whoever or whatever you may hit, because I know your eyes are NOT on the road.
And there should be a rule about WHAT is discussed if you are out in public. I know a lot of people, as soon as they pick up their cell phone, think they are in some invisible sound-proof box, and no one else can hear their conversation except whoever is on the other end of the phone call. Obviously, we KNOW this is not the case. So just pick your topics for conversation wisely when you are within earshot of people who otherwise have no business in your discussion. Especially if the subject matter is personal.
Just some things I wish the general public would consider when it comes to cell phone use. I myself still have a “basic” phone by today’s standards – no smart phone, no apps. Sure, I have poly ringtones, I can text, and take pictures. My phone isn’t my life, I don’t need to update Facebook every second when I’m out & away from my computer. I just think the level cell phones have been brought to inflate people’s own self-importance (I have to post this on FB NOW, people need to know!), and ironically distance us socially.
Do you remember your life BEFORE cell phones?